Rabbi Labinsky 8-5 Tisha BAv Inner happiness

Rabbi labinsky 8-5-19
Tisha BAV Inner happiness
When can we cry


Transform distance into greater closeness
Rachok
Resh ches kuf
Lichkur
Investigate
korach
Where are your pushing your inner rebelliousness?


Closeness
Karov
Kuf resh beis
Boker: morning light
Rakev: systematically breaking down our ego positively
kever
Awakening inner elokus

See ultimately to be interincluded
Mashlim to complete and be close to each other

Shuli
Chaotic emotional spot
When I see it coming
Just feel that H’
Encounter with this force that is Elokim
Theres concealed and infinite light to give me the opportunity to connect
Do an act of chesed, pour a brocha into the tehillim
Until I can restore my equlibream
I want to have a calm mind, pleasant words.
Ill get insights and things will fall into place

Rav:
First trigger words
Distance, chaos, yetzer hara, kitrug, void, darkness
Label it, call it something
Its not just any place
Chalal: place that’s seemingly a void
Where H’ is
Call it something
Fear, anxiety, despair, sadness, closed, shut down

Not just calming emotions
In that moment
A MINI IDENTITY CRISIS
WHO AM I
Am I a divine being?
Kok haneshama :
Shifting core consciousness from nefesh beheimus to nefesh elokim
By breathing, opening my mind
The very breath I am taking is a breath of life itself
Its all YOU
Im giving testimony that IM A DIVINE BEING
Breath neshama
I begin the process
STOP DROP AND DO TSHUVA
The faster I do this, the better
Integration of neshama
Not just remove chalal
Avoid
Creating a void
Connect back to KHBK
68= chayim / chalal

divine light goes in
instead of a choice to human existence
identity to elokus
eclipse to divine light

not just shifting emotion
it’s an identity shift
to who you truly are

the right choice is the hardest thing to do
confronting chaos
koach bechira
to switch to elokus
not just for your self
for all behind you
that’s how you are made

SK:
I have emuna in the design of our nefesh elokis
When you understand more of the circuitry / kabala
Simple emuna works
Given its happening
Not a coincidence
Tisha bav
Bais habehira
House of choicing

Active process of choosing
We are helping to restore our inner bais hamikdash
Another brick to add to the wall
EGO INFLAMATION

The only way to reduce the swelling
The power of choice to choose my real identity

My real identity is in crisis
Then over time macro revelations

We should yearn for the bais hamikdash and act as if its here
Where do you want to be achshav
Right now
You have 5 min to have your own experience
Wherever you’re going to be in that moment.

If it just becomes about the self
Be careful to liberate the self
Refua sheleima for someone
Restoration of bais hamikdash
Gilui shechina
Aspire to become the more elokus we can be

Ultimately we want to try to identify with the shechina
Greatest pleasures will be revealed
Wholeness, compleness
The ultimate quality of existence
If youre not living with the shechina, not a great marriage
Not just a dvar torah
Very profound
The light of the shechina comes between the kruvim
Very heavy duty stuff
The circuitry with the shechina
The greatest expression of true divine alignment
Comes into bearance
Identify with the shechina btzara
Living for the highest truth


Capacity to liberated together
Aliza
Koach of judgement
Gave it to us not to misappropriate it.
Fact that KHBH gave us the ability to judge
Kedusha and chol
Emes and sheker
Tov and ra

Zeh lu mazeh
Perceive correctly
Counterforce within us

My tatty has given me the koach of judgement in this moment
My intention is to embrace the capacity of judgement
And not to see the less of others
I don’t want to give any power in my heart or mind
Dan lchaf zchus
Zchus: to the side of merit
DON’T LOOK DOWN ON PEOPLE
See someones capacities
Dig a bit
Dig to a place to dan lkaf zchus
Dig to where to person could be
Zach: zoche: purify
I want to see positive intentions and capabilities
The potential of who they could be, flourish
That’s what we want
Why is it that way
Demeritoriously they are you
Choose to see them in a higher light
Melt away the shame and blame in your self

Rachok
Lichkur
Investigate
See positively and favorably in others
Has the ability to bring a greater light

Of course that’s true
Theres emes in the sheker

Really saying something anti Torah
I grew immensely
Try a merit to others

Story
This is a bunch of crap
This no such thing as gd
I hate orthodoxy
Rabbi what to you have to say about that

I have nothing to say
I looked to wanting to say something good
Devastated
I looked at him and said
Why do YOU hate orthodoxy
Orthodoxy vs torah observance

We have to go to the purity of soul
Without divisiveness
He made a shift
Took me a few weeks to recover
It all came from one thing
Judgeing favorably
Find something in truth in what he was saying
Judgement of bktzas
Align with them
A willingness to see someone in their highest light
Anyone can return
Daan lkaf chov > dan lkaf zchus

Neshama trying to get out of its own solitary confinement


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hatov umetiv
ulitimate light
moshiach 358
flip nachas 358
rectified to the fullest form
because theyre one and the same

HKBH in every part of pain
Makif around endowed in the greatest light 1:10
Do you want to be all out in your ego
In truth im there too
Surrender the false part of your self
Deepened capacity for joy and peace in the world

Challenge ourselves how much do we want it
To invest in HKBH
Its so GESHMAK TO BE A YID
Im part of the zchus of klal yisrael to bring
Ultimate kavod shamayim to the world
Now
Not from a place of desperation
Because we want ti now

BL: free fro the first time ever; became frum; just starting to understand time
H’s time; connecting on an emunah level
What do you want from me 2 weeks to be in His divine space
What happens with all the chaveros
Stay connected to that
Everyone else not connected to H’s time
When its just H’ and I its fine
I lose my emunah when kids etc come in; its disturbing how I lose it so easily
How we relate to time
Asher yatzar
2 different
afilu shaa echas ari
one without
why those 3 words:
he is changing the bracha

practical terms
even one moment of time
shaa 375= shechina without the yud
the shechina comes down to malkus

bshaa tova: by a pregnancy
what we are really saying

due date: anochius: endowed with another gilui of
something inherently disturbing
we are acknowledging
there is no expectation
birth is all a gift

bshaa tova
it not just labor
time itself IS THE SHECHINA
divine reality piping through time

birth, shidduch, everything
is bshaa tava

when its fixed, and time to be revealed
every outcome in the world

borrow and carry it over to everything
shechina in everything
permission to be patient
all the things that have to be alighned for the revelation of the bracha

in the context of children
its easier in eretz yisrael
we are expected to live in the measureable parts of time and convert it in something g-dly

just did your business one or two
now youre saying asher yatzar
means the opening and closing of your orifices
is perfectly alighned with HKBH
the more we pnimiusise it
the more unshakable we be come
develop, strengthen the roots
we become more rooted in HKBH
turn your whole life in avoda

even children who are meant to test you
they have the control button
but you have the control button too
front footed
more unshakable
unroot the elokus in mundane activities
more laundry, oy. No thank you tatty, I have clothes I like that fit me
When they get dirty, I have a machine and soap that can uproot the dirt
Whitening ones soul
The process of laundering the clothes can awaken me to clean my soul
Guf is parallel to the sould

4 levels of laundry
everything has a ruchniusdik reality;
the key is to start from the physical thing
why
H’ is where you allow him to be
I sent you’re an invite
Bring me into the moments of emotional turmoil, children, laundry

Gam shama H’…
If theres no place you are not, you are everywhere.

Inner alignment with outer alignment
Threshold of pain= threshold of pleasure
Knowing H’ is saying please come close

Value plus love plus drawing closeness
Assuring others
“neshamala, pure potetiality of the soul”

ex. At sheva brachas
put “Rabbi” on my card. Seeing someone in the purest form
not because someone is a “project”
but to bring out what is ALREADY THERE

The onus is on US. We see them that way. In the lens of zchus / purity. Tearms of endearment. Neshamala /Tzadik.
Your CORE IDENTITY

Not hard to judge favorably when talking about a neshama
It the person exists, He/She is an expression of H’
To truly love and value


R Question: how do you hold space – especially in 9 days for intense sadness plus deep inner joy?
Story of daughter coming home from hospital. Steeped in emunah yet experiencing and emotional exhaustion release at end

Deep paradoxes
Dual spaces
Example: a child who says “I cant eat anymore”, yet has room for desert.
Able to hold the pereption of 2 capacities
Im full / I want desert

2 divergent things Practical in our daily lives
RUN & RETURN
Close/distance

Can you hold space for both at the same time?

angst and intensely real, Kinos, breakdown of kedusha in the world. Are we supposed to be “SPIRITUALLY BUMMED OUT?”
INNER YEARNING AND BURNING
Emes and emunah
Expansion and contraction

Ratza vshav
NOTICE THE CONNECTING “VAV”
The Torah

2 opposite processes
how does yearning come for striving

people do things we are good at
find a yearning—just pain and suffering
best packages of GILUI ELOKUS is gift wrapped in
AL ONE NESS
Our ultimate existential ONE NESS <> Aloneness

Alone
Why am I in such pain
As alone in pain
The pain is telling you your ultimate pleasure
The 2 places of food and desert
Capacity of connection
Will be enclothed in the OPPOSITE FORM
Hold the space in idealism

TATTALE, this is from YOU!
Youe have given me the decoder
FLIP IT
YOU’VE GIVEN ME THE PAIN TO SHIFT

GOOD PAIN
PAIN is giving me the capacity of pleasure
The opposite of pain is PASSIVENESS

Rav Berkowitz: this person is in shiva, the emotional capacity to deal with someone elso

7 brochos –also about the emotional capacity to join with another Jew
ANOTHER PART OF KLAL YISRAEL SHELEIMUS- ONE REALITY

The depth of the shechina in hiding has its reveleaton
MOURNING > MORNING = TZOHAR

It’s the same stomach
Same heart
Ability to feel things deeply
To feel the EXTENT OF EMOTION

The revers side
THE SOUL IS SEEKING
I HAVE TO HAVE IT!!!
THE TZARA GENERATES THE RATZON!

Chatzos
Tied to the dpths of the pain
Feel, experience depth of the Shechina
B’ ATZMO, BENEHEM, MARRIAGE / bMakom
All 3! >1
If we feel the abscince
WITHIN
BETWEEN
ABOVE
That capacity will come out on Tisha Bav
Indentify the next 7 weeks till Rosh Hashana

Different and plarized
Reconciling
Bonding
Unifying opposits
Blending the lights

All tied to One overall capacity

The 3 weeks
The yearning is born from the depths of the pain

Neshamal, I’m seeking YOU!
Hopefullness

WE WANT TO HOLD THE DUAL SPACE
TZARA + RATZON = TZOHAR will come out.

Let out the emotional exaustion at the end:

(one hour, 8 minutes into recording)

How to use paradox to reveal H’ in the world.
5 levels of pleasure
deepen
create
develop
deepen
our threshhold for pleasure

the threshhold of how YOU CAN HANDLE THE THRESHHOLD OF PLEASURE

tzara= aveilus
SHIVA = SHEVA (brochos)