5-13 Rabbi Labinsky 6 Constant mitzvos

5-13 Rabbi Labinsky

6 constant mitzvos to relate to ones self

yes we have to have a relationship to HKBH

but epicenter has to be in our self

to be in our self

but not stuck in our self

relate to our self

but ultimately

to HKBH

within ourselves

batzmo

when it comes to baztmo

intrapersonal

interpersonal

transcendent

relating to yourself in a godly way

divine connection to HKBK within yourself

Klalyisdik way

KNO

LFE

to know life

k anochi H - KNOW H’

O- Moach mind

emotion:

L: love

fear: fear

kavod; eyes and heart

taiva and gaiva

start honestly with ourselve

chavairo to haMakom

going beyond your self to connect with others

to know oneself

constant commitment and commandment to know the G-dliness in ourself

deepest passions

da-os in klal and prat

middos

all makeup who we are

we dont own ourselves

we posses our identity

hone to the greatest way

to express the divine presence in the world

perplexed, bewildered,

committed to knowing yourself

the dark side

that annimates us

thats the K

N:

focus on others in a limited way

no one more than you should be interested in execept yourself

dont focus on others

other things, other people that distracts you

from knowing yourself

i make sure not to be alone

im terrified to be alon

O: one

with yourself

unity, shleimus

how it works together

pieces to make peace

instead of compartmentalizing

personal, community, professional

our job is to break down the barriers

bridge

to unify

productivitiy

root of identity

connect back to HKBH

create an ONENess

L:

Kedoshim RSRH: kasha: really loving a Jews essence

vhavata es reacha

it says “l” to

maharal in pirkei avos

the sense of self is so strong

to truly love someone like yourself is rare

coming from same soul route

“L” from within and extending it outwordly

teva ha adam; we dont see ourselves as divine souls

how do we do it for someone else

what we have to do is begin to love ourselves

in an external way

then qualities

then inner charachter

then into essensialness / spiritual constitution

more refined

more proportional

projecting everything about yourself and youre just speaking

from your own self referencing point

5.               F:

fear: michtav mieliyahu

when they are relating to H’s truth

healthy consequences which is H’s was to show we matter

to mobilize

to stay to your own truth

healthy sense of fear.

6.               dont follow after the desires of your eyes and heart;

nefesh behamious: gaiva

taiva” animate from that. our job is to try to reign in our teivas

matata lchachzir: gift to send back to HKBH

humility comes in: desires of nefesh behamious are gaiva

i govern my life the way i see fit

confront the gaiva and taiva

shift it to an elekut way

to know life is to know your self in an all encompassing way

then you know your self is to know HIM

tamidi

24/7 about yourself

thats the framework

in this process

3levels

1.               tzur me ra: all the things that pull you away; obstacles

life time of work

tremendouse avoda: strategic; little retreats but not all the time, NO!, methodical and systematic way

chazer; have a chavrusa; write down questions together; helps make a kinyan of whats real: homework: where are the main areas that make it difficult having a more meaningful relationship to myself. Ultimately to see H’ in myself. What are the things that are holding me back.

gifted to you to strive to overcome them; in working through the TZUR ME RA; more capacity to ___ase tov

Come to terms with what H’ has given me

the bracha and opportunity not just kamocha

realize theres an icredible mahalach and system in how to address it

unbelievable things through halacha

work in the most mindful way

of H’ finding kavod in this world.

2.                

ase shalom

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Tonight is Netzach she b Netzach.

We have 24 hours to breakthough what has been difficult  for us until now.

D’aas nafshecha - An opportune time to refine ones self. We do our part and H-shem will help us. We have to do borer in our hearts, minds, and desires as we refine our ratzon, Da’os and middos.

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Engage with beautiful neshamas

Make sure clean and orderlhy

Feel clean so my mind is as open as possible

Sounds self indulgent

Learn about your self

Your OS- operating system

ie. I cant be as koutgoing to other people

introversion, pnimius / chizonius

apikorsus: to want to be the opposite

praise H’

what does He want?

The only reason you feel insecure is kina / taiva / kavod getting in the way

Thank you Tatti for not giving me this.

This nullifies the judgement of another person.

Bless them that they should use it

Owenership based / posissional

Honor the introversion. It has its challenges

Years past I didn’t honor my own introversion

Stayed in bathroom longer

My soul IS CRAVING SILENCE

LISTEN TO THE NESHAMALA

TOO MUCH EXTROVERSION!

Listen to my inner voice

Be intrigued

It was craving like chocolate

Strong introverts

Honor YOUR NEED FOR QUIET

HONORE YOUR SOUL’S NEEDS

Extroverted

Pnimius / chitzonius

Up to each person to know the degreee

Assess it

Develop both

Every point of pninim

Only if it revealed inside

If someone is more intensely charged by others

See if you can connect with others while connecting to yourself wthout going into never never land

Create places of isolation

More difficult for a chizonius person

According to your shoresh neshama

Own it

Don’t be jealous of those who have it more than you

“I’m just a ben Oni”

NO!

 You’re insulting HKBH and your self

Assess yourself

Mg: key to a healthy marriage

Easy to call out the person

Appreciate them

Not a stira

Chaveiro, atzme, hamakom

Whey would I need to have a relationship

Stretch yourself to be chitzoni

Make others you teachers

Reflective/introspective

BE AMAZED!

LEARN FROM EVERYONE!

ie bathroom

at the time: an intensity of silence

needed to replentish

Im still hungry.

What is that level of silence that I need?

Ng: recongize it

Thank H’

What is that mida of being introverted?

Once you’ve removed the obstacles

“ASE tov”

but if they don’t fit or don’t oxygenate the others

auto immune on a soul level

actually snuffing one out

spiritual auto immune disorder

Arizal Eitz Chayim

Chitzonius / penimius exist at every level of the soul in tandem and in harmony

It’s a challenge when they don’t harmonize

Pnimius vs chitzonius

No

Not connected

Thay are

Bakesh Tov / shalom

Connect them and THRIVE

ACTUALIZED THROUGHOUT THE OTHER

Alef beis

ADBSH

Interchange alef> tav

Beis > shin

Whats the basis of the Baal Haturim sefer Yetzira 22 letters

11 = 11

alef – kaf male

lamed – tof  femaile

way interchageability

alef – originating letter of zachor

Tof – orfinating letter of nekeiva

Only can bring sheleimus to each other

Alev / tav

Energize on another

Wholeness

Our traits can be seen

Zachor= extroversion

Nekeiva= introversion

MESHULAM TO BE COMPLETE ONE ANOTHER

Network your system together

To energize / complete

Don’t be afreaid to see one quality nex to each other

Ultimately to be expressed

Have a spiritual mentor

To shine light to your own blindness

Take yourself serious

But not too serious

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can we differenitally pinpoing really what is our essence.

If someone says your are introverted

What is the apparent self and the true self?

Borer/ sift

The melacha is removing the psoles

The process is creative called BORER

Sifting process to impose a sifting of whats TOV AND RA

Degrees of purity

Without a sifter we cannot purify

BO LISHMA LO LISHMA

More G-dly

A 10 karat sifter will not work for 14k

14 k – impurities are more subtle

18k very fine; much more refined

remove nuanced percentage of impurities

as you grow to higher levels

upgrade the sifter

not just shabbos

BORER in our

HEARTS

MINDS

DESIRES

A professional baker has different sifters

So many sifters

Pine pastry

The more levels to refine

RATZON

DAOS

MIDOS

This week is netzach she b netzach

Break throu 24 hours

Try to break through up until now

That which has been difficult

DAAS NAFSHECHA

MADREGOS OF IMPURITY

BORER – SIFTING AT LEVELS

Someone who has shown sifting qualities

Know oneself

Refine oneself

You don’t become a professional baker overnight

Be patient with yourself

Be an opportunist and not a fatalist

We have to do our part and H’ will help us

Bilvavi: not just hashkofa

This is the REAL WORK

H’ Will send you all the people you need

What kind of relationship do you want with yourself??????????

With others??????????

I’M A MYSTERY

BE FASCINATED

HAVE THE RIGHT PEOPLE TO SHARE

UNIFY KLAL YISROEL

His Briya

Start with YOU

Be thankful

Oh! How lucky I am to serve H’ in my way

39 lamed tet malachos strive to love each other

identify a system

Aleh Shor / Bilbabi

Upper Ruach

6 constant mitzvos

4 yesodos

H’ has given us all kinds of styems

Or hatzadikim

Mentor and give you a system at the same time

Daven that H’ five you a person

You have to work more smartly and wisely

One simple principle

Constructively lazy

The right effort at critical junctures

I know exactly what Im working on

Most people work too hard not on eht critical junctures

Discerning edge

Right focus

How to be discerning eye constructively

Daven

Blessed to be close

Ad meah ve esrim to bring out the bery best quality relationship

Kavod shamayim